REMINDER : Domestic Violence Awareness Month
In October, St. Mark’s will again join the national eﬀort to raise awareness and end domestic violence. We will continue to distribute information about this public health issue, and acknowledge victims, survivors, and their families in our prayers. And we will continue to promote the Domestic Violence Awareness Initiative on an ongoing basis.
In the United States, an average of 20 people are physically abused by intimate partners every minute. This equates to more than 10 million abuse victims annually. (CDC 2010 ) Religion is NOT a deterrent—there is just as much abuse in Christian homes as in non-Christian homes. ( Lee Bowker, Abuse and Religion, 230-31)
…….MORE MYTHS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE…..
Here are common myths about domestic violence. They are NOT true.
Domestic violence does not affect many people. It is believed that domestic violence is the most common, but least reported, crime in the United States.
Domestic violence is only physical abuse. Physical violence is only part of a larger pattern of abuse, which also includes psychological, emotional, sexual, and/or economic abuse. Sometimes there is no physical abuse. The abuser may use other forms of abuse to exert power and control over an intimate partner…….
Ref : “It Shouldn’t Hurt To Go Home……”Maryland Network Against
Domestic Violence, pp. 2,3,6 excerpts.
Domestic violence is just a bad temper.
Domestic violence is just the opposite of a “momentary loss of temper.”
The abuser makes a decision to abuse. It is an ongoing technique to enforce control through the use of fear, and it is part of a pattern of abuse.
Domestic violence only happens in certain families. Domestic violence occurs throughout all levels of society and in every racial, ethnic, and religious group. There is no evidence to suggest that any income level, occupation, social class, or culture is immune from domestic violence.
Domestic violence is just an occasional slap or punch that isn’t serious. Victims are often seriously injured. Some, but not all, seek medical care for injuries and health conditions caused by domestic violence. Abused women are more likely to suffer miscarriages or to give birth prematurely.
Drinking or drug abuse causes domestic violence. Some abusers make alcohol and drugs an excuse for violent behavior. While there is a link between substance abuse and domestic violence, one does not cause the other. However, substance abuse can make the violence worse.
Ref :“It Shouldn’t Hurt To Go Home,” The Domestic Violence Victim’s Handbook, Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence.
!! DEALING WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE !!
YOUR OPTIONS…………………………………..It is normal to have a hard time deciding what to do whenyou are in an abusive relationship. You are not alone.There is help. Here are some options and issues you canconsider:STAYING IN THE RELATIONSHIP : If you stay, you can find support andsafety. If you’re called names how can you take care of yourselfemotionally? What friends can you trust? Is there a safe place to stay incase you need to leave for a few days if it gets dangerous or if you need abreak?PLANNING TO LEAVE: If you might want to leave, it takes planning. How canyou get money? Will you be safe at home? When can you leave? Will youtake legal action? Need an attorney? How will your partner react? Whatmight prevent you from leaving safely? With time and support you canmake a plan to leave.LEAVING THE RELATIONSHIP: If you have decided to leave it can be a biglife change that is scary if you are in danger. Will you have to move orchange jobs so you can’t be found? Stop talking to certain friends? Take abreak from social media? Call the police or get a protective order? A newlife is possible even if it is hard to imagine.SUPPORT AND SAFETY PLANNING: No matter what you decide you can build your support system and find ways to be safer…………….FOR HELP CALL….(County or State)Montgomery County Crisis Center 24 hr : 240-777-4000Prince Georges Family Crisis Center Inc: 301-731-1203House of Ruth, MD 24hr Hotline:410-889-7884State Wide 24 hr Helpline:1-800-634-3577; Emergency:911National Domestic Hotline : 1-800-799-7233Ref:”It Shouldn’t Hurt To Go Home “( Excerpts ) p18. The Domestic Violence Victims Hand Book, Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence.