In the United States, an average of 20 people are physically abused by intimate partners every minute. This equates to more than 10 million abuse victims annually. (CDC 2010 ) Religion is  NOT a deterrent—there is just as much abuse in Christian homes as in non-Christian homes. ( Lee Bowker,  Abuse and Religion, 230-31)



It is normal to have a hard time deciding what to do when you are in an abusive relationship. You are not alone. There is help. Here are some options and issues you can consider:


STAYING IN THE RELATIONSHIP : If you stay, you can find support and  safety. If you’re called names how can you take care of yourself emotionally? What friends can you trust? Is there a safe place to stay in case you need to leave for a few days if it gets dangerous or if you need a break?


PLANNING TO LEAVE: If you might want to leave, it takes planning. How can you get money? Will you be safe at home? When can you leave? Will you take legal action? Need an attorney? How will your partner react? What might prevent you from leaving safely? With time and support you can make a plan to leave.



If you have decided to leave it can be a big life change that is scary if you are in danger. Will you have to move or change jobs so you can’t be found? Stop talking to certain friends? Take a break from social media? Call the police or get a protective order? A new life is possible even if it is hard to imagine.



No matter what you decide you can build your support system and find ways to be safer…


FOR HELP CALL….(County or State)


Emergency:       911
Montgomery County Crisis Center 24 hr: 240-777-4000
Prince Georges Family Crisis Center Inc: 301-731-1203
House of Ruth, MD 24 hr Hotline: 410-889-7884
State Wide 24 hr Helpline: 800-634-3577
National Domestic Hotline: 800-799-7233



Ref:”It Shouldn’t Hurt To Go Home “( Excerpts ) p18. The Domestic Violence Victims Hand Book, Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence.